Things I've Learned In My Late 20s, Early 30s
I’m entering a new year of life, and just like every year, I like to reflect on what I've learned. Today, February 5th, I’m 34 years old y ni yo me la creo (I don’t believe it lol) because I don't feel 34, and I don't think I look like it either.
However, in the past, I recall several birthdays in which I was sad because I felt like I hadn't accomplished what I should have by a certain age. But as I get older, I now see birthdays as life celebrations because many people don't make it this far, and getting older is a true blessing.
While I spent my 20s living carefree and learning, these last three years of my 30s taught me that life will always teach you lessons at any age.
Now that I'm in my 30s, I firmly believe in the famous quote, "Like fine wine, I get better with time." With age comes wisdom, so here are some things I've learned in my late 20s and early 30s.
Don't dwell on the past for too long
Listen, I get it. Sometimes, you don't get that dream job, or perhaps someone takes advantage of you when you have good intentions for them. It's okay to think about the times that didn't go your way or as planned, but trust me when I say, "Let that sh*t go!"
Never settle
I'm a firm believer in going after what you want and deserve. If you must, set specific goals and expectations for yourself. Once you do, you will never settle for anything or anyone.
Go after what you want
If you want that dream job, that shiny new car, or that cute guy's number... you have to go for it! Don't be afraid to take risks; be intentional with what you want out of life.
Create the life you want
We all have dreams and aspirations that we want to achieve, but the key is finding the proper steps to execute them. It doesn't happen overnight, so you must plan specific steps to get there, such as finding your purpose, setting goals, staying focused, and learning from people you admire.
Travel a lot
Your outlook on life can improve once you travel to new places and see the differences in cultures. Whether that means taking a road trip or flying across the states or overseas, traveling is a great way to escape the norm and broaden your horizons.
Spend time with yourself and be genuinely happy with it
If you're single or don't have close friends and family, seeing other people in relationships might make you feel lonely. Whether out in public or scrolling on social media, seeing other couples and friends having fun together could make you sad about being alone. However, being alone can teach you so much about yourself and your personality, improve your well-being, and work toward self-fulfillment by spending time alone. Understanding the benefits of solitude gives you hope and peace, even when you don't have others around you.
Rest and reset as much as you need to
Since childhood, I've been told we must work hard to get where we want to be. However, resting our minds and bodies is even more critical. So, take necessary breaks, use all your PTO and sick days, and get your sleeping pattern in order — your body will thank you.
Listen to your body
My body is slightly different from when I was in my 20s. I've realized how much my metabolism has slowed down, in addition to not handling endless libations like I once could. Being mindful of how your body reacts to certain things is essential. Sometimes, you may need a change in your diet, or you may have to see a medical professional due to a body reaction — whatever the case, don't neglect your body. We only have one, so staying on top of your health is essential.
There is no perfect timeline for success or achievements
I'm not going to lie; this is one that I still struggle with — putting timelines on my success. There’s been times when I thought I would be married by now, a homeowner, or landing that “I made it” role in my journalism career. However, I’ve realized that even if I haven’t accomplish things by a certain age, it doesn’t mean I failed; it just means I have more time to perfect it.
Self-care should be a daily habit
Self-care is the best care, a practice that should be innate. Whether that means exercising, reading, or disconnecting from social media, self-care is one of the best things to help you thrive and prosper.
Write down your goals
I write out my goals every six months to a year. Writing them down helps me put what I accomplished during that time in perspective. It also allows me to describe what I want vividly, motivates me to take action, and celebrates my progress.
Know yourself, know your worth
You have to constantly believe in yourself without seeking validation from others. Know that you are worthy of all good things despite people's opinions and others trying to bring you down. And as one of my good friends and mentor DJ Hed always says in order to win in life you need 3 things: 1. Be undeniable. 2. Bring value and 3. Don’t take things personal.
It's okay to not be okay sometimes
If you're feeling down or uninspired, know that it's okay. Life can throw unexpected curve balls. Just know that you don't always have to be strong; there's no shame in crying to get your feelings out.
Communication is key
Communication is needed in any relationship, whether with a friend, spouse, parent, or co-worker. Effective communication lets you state your feelings, set healthy boundaries, listen intently, and bypass assumptions.
Don't be afraid to ask for help
Don't let your pride prevent you from excelling. Closed mouths don't get fed, so ask if you need assistance.
Take a lot of pictures
I love taking pictures of everything! I feel like I got this trait from my mother, Doña Caro because she has this big box full of images from decades ago. Plus, I've realized how important it is to capture moments, so I take pictures and record videos of everything.
Cherish the people you love
Tomorrow is not promised, so spending time with the ones you love is important. It's equally important to tell them how they make you feel and let them know that they are appreciated.
So cheers to my mid-30s and to continous growth, learning and winning more than even!
xoxo - Lupe
